“Do everything in love” – 1 Corinthians 16:14
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.” – 1 Corinthians 13:4
Have you ever wondered what fills up your love tank? What are those little things that your significant other does that makes you happy? Just how often do you receive those loving gestures?
Earlier this year, I read “The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman. One thing that grabbed my attention to this book was how Gary described that we all have a primary and secondary love language. After reading through the entire book, I reflected on the two love languages that filled my love tank the most. I came to the conclusion that the chapters of Quality Time and Words of Affirmation described me the most out of the five love languages. It doesn’t necessary mean the other three aren’t important to me, just that they aren’t the ways I wished to be expressed love.
Everyone expresses love differently, however sometimes your significant other won’t share the same love languages as you. If they don’t, IT’S OKAY. You simply have to put more time and effort on your part to show them they are loved in their respective love languages. If you both share at least one love language, then you might have just hit the love lottery.
Therefore, no matter what love languages you both are, do everything in love. There’s nothing greater in life than to be loved, whether its by our significant other, our families, our children, or even our friends. Sometimes, we have to remember to be patient when expressing a love language that is opposite to our own and keep in mind that how our significant other feels is what matters most. It’s more rewarding in return. We have to love others as God loves us. Deeply and unconditionally.
Below I listed the five love languages and some of my favorite examples of each.
Quality Time: Growing up my parents would express their love towards me by taking me to the movies, grabbing ice cream together, or even a day trip to the lake to swim. Those are some of my most fondest childhood memories. Therefore, quality time is a must for me!
- Going to the park
- Grabbing coffee together
- Cuddling while watching movies
- Trying new restaurants
- Go on a day trip to the mountains
Words of Affirmation: I feel that is should be at least one of the two love languages everyone should have! Why? The more positivity spread around would make for a better world. I also tend to remember the nice things said towards me. 🙂
- “I love your smile.”
- “I love spending time with you.”
- “Your outfit looks great.”
- “You make me so happy.”
- “You’re doing a great job on your blog!”
Acts of Service: What can I say about this love language? Making one’s bed doesn’t speak romance to me. 🙂
- Make their bed.
- Do the laundry for them.
- Show up to their work with lunch.
- Vacuum the house.
- Put gas in their car.
Receiving Gifts: It’s always nice to receive gifts, but the only time I really enjoy them are during my birthday, Christmas, and special anniversaries.
- Make a scrapbook of your adventures together.
- Send them flowers for no reason.
- Pick up their favorite goodies at the grocery stop for movie night.
- Bring them something from your vacation/trip.
- Buy them a book/movie/ concert ticket/ etc they’ve been wanting.
Physical Touch: TBH I am an awkward hugger. Or was. LOL.
- Give them a hug.
- Hold hands while walking together.
- Kiss their cheek.
- Rest your head on their shoulders.
- Kiss their forehead.
I hope you enjoyed reading this post and hopefully have learned a thing or two about love languages just as I have. Please comment, like or share!
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